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If I was to ask you right now and with give you a choice.
On one hand a half freedom ride.
I have the power to give you all the freedom in the world right now.
But on this hand I have security.
What Would You Choose.
Would you choose security.
Or would you choose freedom would choose freedom.
Or would you choose the comfort zone.
We should choose freedom.
Or would you choose plane it's safe.
Because this is pretty much the choice that we all have smic in relation to every situation and every
circumstance and every conversation every communication every opportunity that we have in life.
Do we take a risk in pursuit of freedom progress or do we play it safe and just stay where we're at.
And this is their very essence very nature of the most the problems of people are going to fundamentally
come to you.
Death when people come to you uncertain of what decision to make in relation to any situation that their
there.
Then the question is always going to be well what do you value more.
The value freedom or value security.
I don't know if this makes sense.
Tia sort what I would like to do here is share with you a story that's going to hopefully help you to
see exactly what I mean by this.
Because back to my childhood when I was just a young man a young boy I used to get taken on caravan
holidays up to a little fishing town called portsoy in the north of Scotland in portsoy.
There was a hotel called the Station Hotel which sat right on the harbour and in the station would wouldn't
back all these years ago there was a little old lady called Margaret.
Margaret was a spinster.
She'd been a spinster she'd been single since the Second World War.
She'd never been kissed never had a boyfriend or saw the sword and so the story goes.
But she did have a burrard and Margaret's byroade was her pride and joy.
So this is the story of Margaret's Bard.
You see for most of the year in the wrath of Scotland you don't get too much sunshine.
So Margaret's Bard lived in a cage in the corner of her living room in the flat above the hotel and
she would say you know give him treats and buy little trinkets for us for a birdcage.
And sometimes he'd watch TV and even whistle along to the theme tunes.
But when it came to the summer months Margaret would do what she thought was a good time.
Her little bird.
She would take the cage from the corner of the living room taken through and place him down on a table
in front of the kitchen window.
We're on low really nice days.
She would even open the window right up so the little bird could look out.
And those days when Margaret genuinely believed that she was doing a good turn by a little Baad were
actually like torment in hell for poor little borrelli because those were the days that Margaret's borrowed
realised that he was a caged bird.
Quail's the heightened security he didn't have freedom as he would compare himself to all the birds
out there who were flying around building nests chasing the mosquitoes and the midges and pecola Worms.
He realized that he was secure but he wasn't free.
And freedom was something that he wanted more than anything else.
So one day came in the middle of summer when Margaret went shopping and this morning it was a beautiful
day.
Margaret taken the birdcage through to the kitchen window and should open the window right up there.
As she left the house or the flat to go to the shops she shut the door behind her.
This gust of wind blew right through the house with the door of the birdcage fell opened and this was
our little birds chance.
It was his opportunity to go for gold.
But as he sat there he thought to himself This is this is my chance I can go through what I wanted for
years.
I won't get my freedom but I can go in Bomi investing get me a borrelli girlfriend and have me somebody
believes in how I can go and pay me some warrants and get the berries over the trees and roar about
in the dust.
I can saw with the Eagles.
But what happens if the Eagles get me.
What happens if the Eagles are all like me.
What happens if they get all wireds don't want me as a as a birdie boyfriend then what happens if it
happens if I'm not able to have any babies.
And and on.
MARGARET She takes care of me.
Margaret puts food on the table.
She she gives me security especially over the winter months when it's called.
She keeps me warm and Margaret's my friend.
I'm so comfortable with Margaret but not free.
But I'm not free.
I don't have a girlfriend just yet and the my.
Like me.
And all that.
I really fancy get my my my background a lot.
And so we procrastinated on into the evening.
Well I wouldn't I couldn't I couldn't I should shouldn't I must I mustn't.
He stayed and I remained in this place off in decisiveness.
Queer freedom security became the main question driving his mind.
So six o'clock came and then what.
Margaret.
She put down her bags of groceries on the floor and walked through the house or into the kitchen where
to her horror show realized that the Bard was just about a flap his wings and go for freedom.
So in slow motion she ran up to the birdcage.
When she closed the cage and she picked it up took him back through to the corner of the living room
where we put him back on his shelf.
Just top this thing with birdseed put the blanket over his cage and the little bird fell asleep.
I'm afraid the story ends there.
Because this is actually where most people's stories and in life most people choose security over freedom.
You're watching this course right now because you are committed to learning.
In view of Hopefully at some point in the future potentially airing in view of us at some point in the
future potentially leaving behind some sort of legacy in view off at some point in the future reaching
this stage of the golden years in life where we just sit back relax do our thing and wait for the young
guys and girls to come to us where we can guide them through the problems and the crises that they face
versus kind of what we want.
That's in fact kind of what all people want.
But the one thing that prevents people from getting these things is that they don't take resk because
many people in life are completely risk averse.
Many people in life see resk as a bad thing.
But what I'm suggesting here is these are three or far more prominent core values and they are.
If you look at some people who say no risk is a bad thing are going to be less inclined to step outside
of the comfort zone and pursue their goals their dreams the freedom that they ultimately want.
But freedom doesn't come apart from taking risks.
And it's crucial that we understand this sort of what I would just like to add here into the mix is
to build upon the emotional intelligence framework that are shared with you.
And Section 2 that all anxiety in life stems from unmade decisions.
No appreciate that might seem like a broad statement but I'm urging to consider and look at how this
is actually true.
I'm not just going to debut some information to prove I don't need to.
And we're not r.g. to look for and see this for yourself.
Quinn we haven't made a decision in life.
A decision is about committing to a certain path.
It is about committing to a certain course of action.
Once you have made a decision there's no anxiety we've made remains of this where we're going.
All anxiety comes before a decision is made.
So when it comes to life coaching some people might feel overwhelmed with emotion anxiety.
So a life coach is that the greatest reward we can play in their life is just simply helping them to
understand and recognize the choices that they actually have because whilst security is nice.
The security that we have within ourselves if we've become secure in who we are far outweighs security
that we could ever find through stuff external to us through Job security through financial security.
If you think about it no amount of money can make you more or less of who you actually are.
There is no rank or title or status in the world.
They can make you more of you.
You already are.
You're the constant.
So what we're looking at here is once we've built the core the more that into our practice and we've
taken people through this.
So they're beginning to recognize who it is that they actually are.
We're then going to be encouraging them to take more risks to step outside of the comfort zone and just
be true to who they are.
Be honest in relation to what it is they want what they don't want what they're passionate about what
they're not passionate about and make decisions based upon what's actually true for them.
Because freedom in life is a fascinating thing.
Some people see freedom as this destination that will may reach at some point in the future if we have
enough money if we have enough stuff.
But it's not the only freedom that we have in life.
Is is the choice that we have.
Remember in Section 2 will looked up so this part of us are mind are well aware and motions are well
is are free well it's our freedom to choose how we respond or react to situations and circumstances
that we find the self.
It's our freedom to choose which is in fact the only freedom that we have in life.
We have no control over how the weather is over the decisions and the choices that other people make.
But we do have complete control over the choices that we make.
All of the time.
So empowering people to make the decisions they want to make in life we would refer to those as congruent
decisions is exercising a person's ability to exercise freedom.
The freedom to choose so abstract I appreciate unconventional.
I also appreciate a hope that this on some level makes sense because you can have all life coaching
frameworks and the goal setting exercises in these sorts of things.
But if keep all those that you kortu do not understand just how free they are then they're never going
to Mig or commit to the decisions have been made to make.
They are fundamentally going to lead to them get more of what they want anyway.
So.
Rant over.
Hope this makes sense.
Take a few moments to ponder over there.
And drooly this story Margaret's bertina own life because leaders go first.
Right if you want to coach someone you must first be willing to go there before before all of them saw.
Reflect on your own life.
No.
Are there any areas in your life that you're choosing security over freedom.
And so why.
What is it you really want to give you Mormons ponder with these questions and look forward to seeing
again for some more life changing sides in the next venue.